I always knew there was something different about me. I didn’t know what it meant, didn’t know what it was called, and certainly didn’t know the emotional battles I would have with myself as I was growing up.
Coming from a relatively small country town was even more confusing for me.
What is wrong with me?
Is there something wrong with me?
Why do I feel like this?
Are there other girls like me? Where are they?
How will I know?
What will people think?
What will my family think?
Will my friends hate me?
The questions just kept coming, but I didn’t have any answers. Each and every day I was struggling with my inner demons.
I remember my first real girl crush like it was yesterday. There was a girl in my class at primary school that just got me. I know she is still out there, and I know she is out. One day our paths may cross again.
I moved away from my home town when I was 19 and headed for the big smoke. By this time I was in so much emotional pain. I developed a very close relationship with alcohol, but the pain didn’t go away. It was always there the next day.
I became close to one of my friend’s mum. I could talk to her about anything. She obviously saw something in me that I didn’t know was ‘visible’.
When she asked if I wanted to go out one night with her and some friends, of course I said yes. What she didn’t tell me was that it was a women’s only club. When we walked in, although petrified, I finally felt like I was not alone. The place was packed, so I definitely wasn’t alone
. Finally, I could start being me, whatever that meant.
I guess this was the first time I came out, and I didn’t have to say a word. And I guess that’s when her and her partner came out to me.
When it came time to start coming out to family and friends, I was shit scared, and rightly so. I was cast out, given death glares, humiliated, bullied, publicly shamed, and the list goes on.
I was made to feel disgusted that I was a human being.
Even though I was living the party life, I was now very much alone. Let’s be honest, I was trying to fill a void

.
At my lowest point, I just wanted to die.
Slowly, I started to meet people who just saw me, without judgement. I was finally starting to realise that life could be beautiful.
Times were changing.
Or was it just me seeing things more clearly?
Things were very different back in the 90’s.
Along came the internet, mobile phones, and a multitude of Social Media platforms.
May the support, awareness and love continue to grow for the LGBTQ+ community.